No magic in the grey area

I’ve asked the Lord for wisdom as I write this post. I’ve been thinking about it for a few weeks now, and I’ve finally taken the time to sit, process, and pray about what I want to share.

What I am about to say is my opinion, from convictions the Lord has placed on my heart, and is spoken with gracious truth.

This post is written for women. If you’re a dude, feel free to read. If this were a secret I wanted to keep from you I wouldn’t be posting it on the Internet. You should just know that I’m gonna write like I talk, and who I’m talking to is one of my girlfriends as we sit in the corner table of our local Starbucks sipping Americanos. Cool? Cool.

Okay, lady. There are a few more things you should know (if you didn’t already) before you read on.

One — God desires for you to walk in honor and purity. He longs for you be a courageous, strong, happy, wise, and kind woman. Please hear me correctly when I say that He wants you to be a woman who fears Him. He longs for you to stand in awe of who He is, what He has done, and what He will do in your life. He desires for you to bring Him glory and make His name known.

Two — God’s desires for you, are my desires for you.

All that to say, I’ll begin with this:

I’m not watching Magic Mike and I’m not reading Fifty Shades of Grey. And you shouldn’t either.

Normally, I do not blog about the books I’m not reading, and the movies I’m not seeing. Not very useful information for you to know. However, this film and this book are quite the phenomenon’s of the summer. I’m joining the conversation because I don’t want you to join the party.

First off, let’s start at the beginning. Fifty Shades of Grey is classified as erotic fiction. Magic Mike is a film about male strippers. For some women, the decision of whether to read this book or watch this film is simple once they learn what they are all about. However, others are curious and want to “check ’em out.” And others can’t understand why I, and many many others, are upset. “Isn’t this just a book?” “I’m spending the evening hanging out with my girlfriends, we just want to watch a fun movie with some cute guys in it.” “It isn’t real, it’s just fiction. It might even add some fun to your sex life with your husband!” Please don’t justify your actions with these thoughts. And please don’t believe that this isn’t a big deal.

Erotic fiction is defined as that which has “no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire.” God says there is only one who should stimulate sexual desire in us: our husband. If you’re not married: your future husband. Since that’s God’s plan, anything other than my husband creating arousal in me would be against His intention. In other words, it would be sin.

Jesus said it this way: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” The same is true of a woman looking at or reading about a man. Reading this book and watching this movie is sinful.

Think about it from this perspective. Sadly, a few of our guys have looked at porn. How’d it make you feel when you learned that your friend, boyfriend, fiancé, or husband exposed themselves to it? Did it cross your mind that you could never compare to the perfection created by lights and Photoshop? Well, he can’t live-up to the unhealthy, unrealistic comparisons you create for him either.

In Philippians 4:8 it says, “whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Can you truly think purely while simultaneously reading this book and watching this movie? The Bible has said for thousands of years that lust is hurtful and harmful to us.

God knew what He was doing when He commanded us to keep our hearts and minds pure.  Exposure to erotica and pornography, over time, conditions your body to self-stimulation and gratification. It’s not just a preference. It’s physiological. We’re women. Our imaginations, and the emotions they create, are powerful. The fact is, exposing yourself to erotica robs you of the real sex and relationships the Lord desired us to have. This book and film — and many others books, films, and TV shows for that matter — are not good for your marriage or future marriage.

From the reviews I’ve read, a specific genre is highlighted in Fifty Shades of Grey — BDSM. Do you know what it stands for? Bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. God created sex to be a partnership that’s fueled by love, not pain and humiliation. This book redefines sex into something evil as the lead character dominates in a hurtful manner. Stay away from this. You don’t want these images in your mind.

There are many things in this world I don’t need to partake in to know that they are harmful to me. God has spoken clearly, with no grey area, about His desires for my life. When my entertainment choices conflict with that, I turn the other way. You need to turn the other way.

If your heart resonates with mine, share it with your friends. There is too much junk in our world and it is often difficult for us to see what is pure, honorable, and noble. Stand firm, my friend. As Paul wrote to the church of the Thessalonians, “walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.”

2 thoughts on “No magic in the grey area

  1. I agree whole heartedly. I have already been called a prude for not going with some girls to magic Mike. I explained my side but they thought it was just all in good fun. Good for you!!

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